To the Person Desperate for a Spouse, Let God Write your Love Story

I had planned for this blog post to be a post about my last summer adventure… heading home from Blue Ridge, Georgia with my boyfriend to my small town in the middle of the state. I felt God leading me to write about His redemptive story and plan for my life… how God has good plans for those who love Him despite their background. I had planned to write about the redemption that I had already experienced–my salvation story and a part of my testimony. I had no idea that God’s redemption concerning my love life would be the redemption story that He wanted me to tell today.

One day very, very soon I want to tell my full testimony because it’s one that is full of God’s good plans coming to fruition in my life and His continual pursuit of my stubborn heart. But for now, I want to encourage the person who is desperate for a relationship… or desperate for marriage… and that desperation is leading you to do things that are outside of God’s will. I want to encourage you in this–God’s plans are so, so good, and His timing is perfect.

At this time, I no longer have a boyfriend. That same man who traveled from Michigan to Georgia this summer to bring me home  made the same trek to surprise me with a ring on August 31.

I now have a fiancé, and I have a wedding date that is set for June 2019. I am more joyful than I have ever been, and I have never felt more loved.

But what most do not see are the painful moments that brought me to this point… the tearful questions asking God where my “forever love” was.

Before I was saved, I entered into ungodly relationships.


Because I was desperate. Because I  listened to the world… the devil… the enemy… that said that I needed to run ahead of God’s plans, find someone–anyone–who was the least bit interested.


Because “time” was running out. Because I was getting older.

Because the world says singleness is not to be celebrated for the wonderful season of life that it is.

Instead of using a time period in my life to be a single person and work on myself and my relationship with God, I thought that I needed companionship to be whole and happy and complete. Even after salvation, I sought relationships without seeking God’s guidance first.

And I wondered why there was fighting. I wondered why the relationships were not working out. I wondered why I wasn’t happy… why I couldn’t make someone else happy.

Well, it had nothing to do with me or the other person.

It had everything to do with being outside of the will of God. It had everything to do with forcing a relationship with someone other than the person that God created just for me.

I want you, the reader, to be spared this heartache. I want you to celebrate the season of singleness that you’re in. I want you to wait on the one God has for you. It will spare you so much heartbreak, so much stress, so many negative emotions.

You see, in December 2016 (five years after receiving salvation), I found myself in a season of singleness after being in a relationship for quite some time. And for the first time ever, I found myself praying for my future husband… kneeling on a stone altar while on a girls’ trip with my best friend.



I wish that I could tell you that I left the struggle and the desperation there on that altar. Instead, I have to confess that I’ve picked up that struggle and desperation several times since that date. But that day is monumental because it was the first day that I began to pray consistently for the man that I was supposed to marry.

And guess what happened when I finally began to give this desire up to God?

He brought His work to the forefront. What God was doing in the background became something I could tangibly see.

It didn’t happen instantaneously. It was almost a year later (November 2017) that I found myself forming a friendship with Mitchell (not just the acquaintance we had developed previously). As we talked more and more, I found that our hearts… our desires… our dreams… our plans… our ideas for ministry… were vastly similar. I found that we were just similar enough to be compatible but just different enough to keep each other on our toes. I found that he was becoming my very best friend… and perhaps, more than a friend.

In those months of friendship, I continually asked God, “Is this finally it?” I was so guarded. I didn’t want to get my hopes up!

And then Mitchell asked if I could visit during my spring break. And I found myself buying a plane ticket and packing my suitcase. For more details, click here.

That trip to Michigan led to him coming to Georgia which led to our summer travels which led to August 31 and a proposal.

Let me tell you this, God’s plans are good.

His timing is perfect.

No one can attest to this more than myself. God truly redeemed my past and gave me a wonderful, Godly man… a man that far surpasses my wildest and highest hopes, dreams, and imagination. He’s amazing, perfect for me because God has designed him to be so.

Please wait on the one that He has created for you.

Don’t rush ahead.

Enjoy the process just as much as the end result. Enjoy your season of singleness.

Pray… pray… and pray some more.

And when God gives you the desires of your heart that are aligned with His perfect will for your life, know that I am celebrating with you and with God’s love story that He has written for you.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Romans 15:13

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.”

Proverbs 16:3

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

Proverbs 19:21

Praise the Lord, my soul; all my inmost being, praise His holy name. Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all His benefits–who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”

Psalm 103:1-5

Much love,


4 Comments Add yours

  1. Amy says:

    Congratulations! I have read Karen’s blog for many years and I’m so happy for you! Blessings to you and Happy Thanksgiving!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much! Happy thanksgiving to you as well!


  2. I just read your story on Karen’s email. Congratulations to you! Your message here is so needed in our culture. Sharing this on Pinterest and Twitter.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much, for your words and for sharing!

      Liked by 1 person

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