Everything’s Not Fine, & I’m Not Okay…


*Picture above is not mine*

Everything’s not fine, and I’m not okay.

I’m a failure.

Others would be better off with a different girl as their daughter, sister, sister-in-law, friend, counselor, future girlfriend, and future wife… anyone but you, Macey.

I’m worthless.

I can hear y’all now. “Whoa… where is this coming from, Mace?”

Recently, I have become friends with a person who constantly challenges me… in the best of ways. He challenges me to be better each day than I was before, especially in my Christian walk.

One thing that God brought to my attention through this friend is my negative thought patterns. Literally, I think the thoughts above, and many, many more like them almost daily. I’m consumed by them… and whenever something happens in my life that seemingly “aligns” with these thoughts… the devil yells “HA!”, and I tuck my tail in defeat.

I’m participating in the Zip It challenge by Karen Ehman, a challenge about trading in discouraging words for uplifting ones. Never did I think that the biggest target of my discouraging words would be… myself.

My attention was brought to Philippians 4:8, which says,

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

The following are the definitions that I found on Google dictionary.

True – truth/reality

Honorable – bringing or worthy of honor

Right – morally good, justified, or acceptable

Pure – free from moral fault or guilt

Lovely – exquisitely beautiful

Admirable – arousing or deserving respect and approval

Excellent – extremely good or astounding

Worthy – having or showing qualities or abilities that merit recognition in a specified way

Praise – express warm approval or admiration of

As I think back on those thoughts that I mentioned earlier, none of them fit these categories. They were not true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or worthy of praise.

I need to zip it!

As Karen says,

“Before words are uttered audibly, they first originate in our minds. Thoughts turn into words.”

And I would dare say, that words will then turn into actions… I certainly don’t want those negative thoughts that I’ve been thinking to guide my actions!

Maybe you struggle with this, too. Maybe you struggle because you say these words, and words similar to them, about other people. In any case, I hope you meditate on the following quotes by Natalie Chambers Snapp, in her Bible study called Becoming Heart Sisters, that have helped me reframe my negative thoughts into more positive ones.

“I failed to understand not only who I was but also Whose I was.”

“I need to base my identity on the truth of who I am in God’s eyes–a God who is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow.”

“Sharing our own insecurities brings them out of the darkness into the light, and there God can do His best healing work.”

Let’s turn our negative thoughts around. Let’s think of ourselves (or others) the way Jesus thinks about us (them).

Everything’s not fine, and I’m not okay.

“Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!”

Nehemiah 8:10b

I’m a failure.

“In everything he did he had great success, because the LORD was with him.”

1 Samuel 18:14

Others would be better off with a different girl as their daughter, sister, sister-in-law, friend, counselor, future girlfriend, and future wife… anyone but you, Macey.

“You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” 

Psalm 139:16

“The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me…” 

Psalm 138:8a

I’m worthless.

“She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.” 

Proverbs 3:15

Reframe, friend. Get in God’s Word. See what He says about you. Write those Scriptures somewhere where you will see them multiple times a day. Put them in your phone as reminders (I have mine set all throughout the day!), or set them as your lock screen. Saturate yourself in the thoughts of Your Savior towards you.

And if you struggle with unkind words towards others (even if you never verbalize them), remember that those same things He says about you is what He says about the person that you’re degrading with your words.

Live like you’re loved… because you are loved by the Creator of the universe… and as a result of that outpouring of love, love others. Love them well.

Much love,




*Picture is not mine*


*Picture is not mine*

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